If you are considering having sex for the first time there are a few things you must know.
Getting to those facts is difficult because you have to wade through social taboos and misinformation.
Everyone who is sexually active has had a “first time” and most people will tell you it was nothing like they expected it to be. For boys, the “first time” is a sort of stepping stone to manhood, a sign that you are well on your way to being a real man. For girls, visions of the first time are often clouded with ideas of romance that are more based in dreams than in reality.
The decision to have sex should never be taken lightly. If you are making it without any thought you shouldn’t be having sex – plain and simple. But if you have given your decision some real thought there you are bound to be full of questions. You have probably heard rumors about what sex is like and what can and cannot happen “the first time”.
Let us clear up the myths and present you with the realities.
1. Pegnancy: There is no first time exemption. The first time can result in a pregnancy in a male/female sexual intercourse.
2. The only forms of birth control that work with any reliability for the inexperienced are; condoms, birth control pills (taken for at least a month before), female condoms, sponge, spermicide, depo-provera (given by a doctor well in advance), IUD and diaphram (both need a doctor).
3. Rhythm and Cycles require some real experience and are NOT for first timers.
4. Standing up right away or jumping up and down will not prevent pregnancy.
5. You can get an STD, and even AIDS, the first time.
6. Only condoms (female and male), preferably with a spermicide, can give you any protection against STDs and AIDS. Other forms of birth control will not prevent this disease.
7. The only 100 percent perfect protection against AIDS, STDs, or pregnancy (for adults and teens) is NOT having sex.
8. You probably won’t know what you are doing or if you are doing it “right.” Try not to worry too much about it, as long as it is consensual there is no one “right” way.
9. Your body may not cooperate, even if your mind wants to be having sex, your body will have an opinion, too.
10. You can change your mind and say “NO” whenever you want to before doing it. Just because you agreed to have sex doesn’t mean you have to go through with it.
10 Facts About Your Feelings and Your First Sexual Experience
(a) It will NOT go the way you plan, it is best to plan only the birth control, time and place.
(b) If you are a girl; it will not feel very good. If you are a boy; it will be over so fast you won’t know for sure how it felt.
(c) You WILL be nervous and maybe a little scared – not necessarily in a bad way.
(d) You will feel different about yourself and the other person – not necessarily in a bad way
(e) You will NOT suddenly be a woman or a man.
(f) You may feel guilty that you are actually wanting to have sex. Try to remember sex is perfectly natural and normal and not something to feel guilty about.
(g) As long as you know you are ready, and care about the person you are with, you will enjoy yourself.
(h) If you don’t respect your partner, or you know they don’t respect you, you will have regrets.
(i) If you love or are loved by your partner, you may still have regrets.
(i) Regrets are normal. You have lost something – your virginity – it is natural and normal to mourn that loss.
Keep these in mind when you are getting a little comfortable with your special someone. Remember, it is always way better to be safe than to be sorry.
Adapted from about.com